The death of Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth provides us with an opportunity to think about how we talk to children about grief.
Many adults feel the need to ‘soften’ the news by saying “They’ve gone to live with the angels” or “They will be watching over us.”
Experience has shown me that children are way more resilient than we think, and just need death to be explained to them honestly and in language they can understand. They need to ask questions and they need to be allowed to grieve, in the same way as adults do. Attempts to soften the news for them can be very confusing and unhelpful. Have a read of this article from Child Bereavement UK.
Queen Elizabeth taught all of us so much but gave us the perfect opportunity to talk to our children about loyalty, dignity, privacy and fulfilling promises. Surely teaching our children about these things is one of the most powerful things we can do to honour the life of Queen Elizabeth?
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